Detachment ≠ Disconnect

Updated: Aug 10

You only lose what you cling to.
Detachment is not the elimination of desires, but only knowing you are not all that changes.
It is freedom, free to make new concepts, yet free from concepts. Free to own, yet not owned by it.
To be in this world, fully... Yet not of it...

Wikipedia says, "Nonattachment, non-attachment, or detachment is a state in which a person overcomes their emotional attachment to or desire for things, people or worldly concerns and thus attains a heightened perspective." Detachment isn't about not being involved in the world around you or giving up on your goals. Instead, it involves surrendering control, playing the play, and surrendering with trust in the universe. It is being fully present, living each moment the way it is, knowing that this is all that exists. When you grow in detachment you will become not more aloof, but more joyful. That is the criterion of all that is good. Joy is the criterion. If you are growing in joy, you are growing, and you are getting towards home….If you are moving into detachment, love will grow, joy will grow, and only attachments will drop — because attachments bring misery, and bondage, and destroy your freedom.


When nothing belongs to you, you own everything.


Let's begin with a story before we talk about detachment... I met a guy 2 years ago.


He said, ''Ahh! I am an out-of-site, out-of-mind person. It's too easy for me to let go. A person leaves the place and I am completely over them. I don't care anymore''


Sounds Zen, right?


What a great person, always living in the moment. I wanted to believe want he said and get inspired by it.


But I started seeing a pattern when I observed that man for a little while.


A pattern of not getting involved in things at all. Everything he did was shallow. He was so afraid to go into the depths of anything. Any relationship, anything that required any kind of commitment, sharing of emotions, a deep knowingness.


After observing him from a few conversations and meetings, I saw his fear of getting hurt or left behind, or abandoned was so much,


that he has decided not to get truly involved with anything only.


So, if he doesn't attach himself to anything, he wouldn't have to do the difficult task of detaching.


But is that what detachment is?


That is what disconnecting is.


Detachment in my experience has been the complete opposite.


It is full of attachments, full of vulnerability, and full of deep connections. But yet there is no tight rope holding anything to anything.


And one cannot detach unless they first allow themselves to be fully attached and experience the connection.


That opens your heart.

To fully take a deep dive and even drown/surrender completely in the unfathomable oneness.


The detachment is not disconnecting.

It is taking absolute ownership, absolute attachment, and Love, Yet remembering it's not permanent.


To welcome everything, let it come fully,

And being graceful, when it goes.


and the letting go will not be a letting go,

If you didn't allow it to come only.


Can you let go of something that you never had?

"Detachment does not mean, you should own nothing,


It means that NOTHING SHOULD OWN YOU"